The continual drive and obsession for growth,  expansion and succeeding at all costs is literally killing women. The need to be permanently switched on and going at full speed is exhausting and unnecessary.  It is draining our life force away. Women are not designed this way, and our societies dominant masculine energy is the problem. 

No woman would purposefully design a modern world like this, yet we have been conditioned by it. We think it’s the norm, and because it doesn’t work for us – we believe that somehow WE are the ones who are flawed. It couldn’t be further from the truth.

The difference is this. Men have seasons throughout their life. Women have seasons every.single.month.

Until relatively recently this was an alien concept to me. For most or my life I have been disconnected from my month cycle.  Only now I am beginning to discover the changes that I experience within myself over the course of a month. If this is a new concept to you, you’re not alone. There’s a whole new world waiting to be discovered when you pay attention.  Cycles and rhythms play out internally – yet they are subtle. In order to know them you must pay attention.  Women for the most part have become numb to the life that is happening within their bodies. There is no space for feeling and emotions in the hyper masculine culture. It doesn’t exist. Which means, we don’t exist. Let that sink in. If a woman cannot be all of whom she is, do we really have a culture? No, we have a prison. And one I might add, of our own doing. This isn’t about blame, it’s about awareness.

So get this. Every month, the women in your life go through four seasons.


Every single month on repeat. The energy rises, the green shoots spark. The summer heat and beauty comes. The autumn leaves turn and then the cold wind sends us huddling under blankets for warmth and rest.

Every single month. Over and over. A constant change to our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual landscape. 

If you wonder why women are so complex, here’s why. If you’re a woman and you’re wondering why for the life of you, you can’t figure your shit out, here’s why. There’s nothing wrong with you. Chances are you’re just disconnected from what is. Your true nature.

We need to slow down. We need to stop. Smell the roses. Plait our hair. Dance and sing. Those are the things that make our spirit soar. You know when you’re in the company of a woman who is deeply connected to herself.  Her presence is enchanting.

This is what we deeply need to do our work. Space to be women. We are not men. We do NOT thrive in a hyper masculine environment.  

Likewise if you’re a man and you’re stuck in your hyper masculine with no connection to your feminine essence, you are guaranteed to burn out. Sooner or later life will crack you open and demand that you stop. I’d recommend making that decision before it’s forced upon you. Once you open  up to your emotions,  not only will you find true connection and fulfilment, you’ll also understand the female of the species a whole lot better.

We don’t want to be men. That’s your job. Please help us to create the space for us to do ours (and yes that might include crying,  that’s part of the role ;)).

Thanks in advance.


Breathe the change you wish to see in the world. 

Philippa xo

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