People talk about change like it’s some big baddie from a horror movie that’s out for your blood. The scary, stalking predator that’s waiting to get you when you step around the corner.
Nope. Change is happening all the time. It’s just the changes you ‘don’t’ want that feel like that. Because they trigger your fear. And the reason they are arising? Because your fear NEEDS to be triggered so that it leaves you. So that you can actually live in truth.
There are two ways to embrace change. The easier way and the harder way. Let’s start with the latter.
The hard way (aka kicking and screaming)
Resist, resist, resist! Ignore the change. Fingers in ears, close your eyes. Run away. Pretend it’s not happening. Build an army to protect yourself from it. Distract and numb yourself at every opportunity.
How is that working for you?
Shall we move onto the easier way (notice I didn’t say easy)
Embrace the change. Be open minded. Feel your emotions and release them. Speak openly about the changes and your concerns / fears / worries / worst case scenarios. Engage support from people who have been through something similar. Get a coach. Learn how to identify and resolve your limiting beliefs, behaviours and thoughts.
See the difference here?
The hard way – be closed and defensive.
The easier way – be open and curious.
It’s not rocket science, but typically humans go into a fear and panic response whenever there is something new on the horizon. Oh hello anxiety!
When you realise that your inner game is what will help you to skilfully navigate a changing world, things in your life will improve dramatically. You’re the one in charge here silly!
It’s like polishing a turd. Not possible.
You can however roll it in glitter. It might look nice and snazzy, more appealing on the eye. Yet it’s a temporary fix and that sh!t will still stink.
So the question is how do you take away the smell? How do you make it more attractive? (After all going to the bathroom is something you will need to continue to do for the rest of your life….)
Do you reverse engineer the poop and insert it so that it comes out better? Fragrant and perfectly formed? Made of all the best ingredients?
That seems like a lot of work and a pretty dumb idea….. but it’s what we are doing all the time.
No, it’s not the path.
If you want a better result, you change what you eat. Cut out the crap, adjust your diet. Take supplements or herbs that support your digestion to improve in the short term. Eat your fibre and remove the things that cause you gas and bloating. Get some exercise to move your bowels. You get the picture.
The results at the other end are then something hopefully more palatable.
Notice again I didn’t say easy.
We will all need to poop for the rest of our lives. We will also need to change. Life requires it of us.
It’s the resistance to change which is hard. It’s the stories you tell yourself, denied unexpressed emotions and subconscious belief systems that are the cause of your pain.
When you master your inner game, change will feel like a challenge you WANT to embrace. When you know it starts from within, you’ll trust that you have the tools to deal with any difficulties that come your way. Because fundamentally, that’s how you’ve been designed. To evolve and grow.
Want to reverse engineer your success? Start with your inner game.
Because change happens from the inside out.
Remember,
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.
Philippa xo
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