Breathwork

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’ve been pondering this today as I get myself back to the gym.

Let’s take a poll of some of the most important jobs out there.

Doctors? No.

Lawyers? No.

Politicians?….

It appears to be a resounding YES. I find this incredibly concerning. What do you think?

How have we built a culture in the UK (and let’s face it – globally) where the people that are nominated to run the country – are compulsive liars?!

In no other profession would this be acceptable, let alone part of the remit.

Why do we allow the people in power, who are supposedly responsible for bringing law and order to our democratic nation (questionable) to lie? And not only a few white lies here and there, but big FAT FIBS and untruths at that.

It’s even called ‘playing politics’! If that doesn’t sum up the theatre show that marauds as government I don’t know what does.

Is it progressive? Is it making our world, country, life a better place? NO. So why do we allow this?

I can think of a few reasons.

Because:

We are all lying to ourselves at some level, so we believe that someone else lying also is acceptable.

We don’t feel it’s our job to be involved in making our life /town/world a healthy and functioning place – that is the job of someone else we employ to take on that responsibility for us.

We naively trust those in authority because we have unresolved emotional trauma with our parents and expect those in power to take care of us and hold the misguided belief that they have our best interests at heart.

We disown responsibility for our lives and compromise our values and integrity for the false illusion of safety and security.

Lastly, if we dared to look behind the veil we would be petrified.

We choose fear over love.

Lies over reality.

It’s time we grew up and had the courage to look at the monster under the bed. Only then can we do something about it.

Remember
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo

You’ve woken up to the lies and deceit. The realisation that the world is not quite what you thought. That you’ve been conditioned to see things, not as they really are, but as someone else with a different agenda wishes you to see them. 

The shadow games. The manipulation. The control. 

Overt and subtle, now you can’t unseen it. Everywhere you go you realise things are different. Not as they seem. Underlying messages. Hidden agendas. Deception.

It can feel like an overwhelmingly hopeless place. Confusing. Challenging. Crushing. 

I know it all too well.

If you’re here I empathise. 

Waking up is a painful process. It’s like having the rug pulled from under your feet and there is no solid ground. More than ever we are being pushed to the limits to conform and comply with procedures and practices we don’t believe in. It’s easy to feel the pressure and cave in. That’s what the powers that be want. Control. To break you down. To make you go crazy. To make you believe you’re truly losing your sh!t. 

You’re not. In fact you’re probably one of the sane ones. Those that see beyond the smoke and mirrors are often outcast and ridiculed by those who cannot see.

As Friedrich Nietzsche wrote “And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.”

Now you can hear the music. Others cannot. They may in time, or they may not. It’s not your responsibility to wake those who still wish to sleep. 

So what do I do, I hear you ask?!

Live by example. Address your shadows. Resolve your emotional baggage.

Go within. Get still. Decide what you’re here to create and how you want to live your life. 

Do it. Without question. Follow through. Live like you mean it. 

Others will take notice, they will want some of your truth medicine. Some will think you’re insane, but at the same time won’t be able to look away. You might get ridiculed, dismissed, judged or outcast by those in your circle but I guarantee there are more people like you than you think. By living and breathing your truth you will find them. 

Authentic connection with yourself will serve you well on the awakening path. There is no option of going back to sleep, no matter how attractive. There is only living, expanding, and growing in truth and love. Other approaches will be painful, inviting you to return to the true path, the way. 

Clear your sh!t. Face off with your emotions. Have difficult conversations. Get real with yourself. Trust yourself. Follow your inner guidance.

Awakening is a process that doesn’t end. Strap yourself in for transformation. And yes growing has pains, if you accept that and embrace them when they arrive you’ll move through discomfort much quicker and easier. It’s the resistance to being broken open that hurts.

So you’re awake, now what?

Now my friend the journey starts. Now you start living. It’s all in your hands.

Remember
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo

Into the depths of darkness I go.

Will I return? I never quite know.

But every time I know that I must.

It’s never desired but I always choose trust.

Finding the ground means losing it first.

Only total surrender results in rebirth.

Down, down down, beyond the mud and dirt.

Through hell and high water, with the devil I flirt.
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But I know it’s not the place to dwell.

My visit is purposeful – to release the spell.

That keeps me stuck and in separation

From myself, my heart and entire nations.

The depths are dark, malevolent and scary

At times the path is treacherous and hairy

But those who wander and dare to roam

Are always guided safely back home.

This is what it feels like each time I meet face to face with truth.

The cool precise blade that cuts away all that is fake to reveal what lies beneath.

Purity.

Innocence.

Softness.

Love. 

There is no hiding place anymore. 

Everything is revealed and laid bare. 

Raw and vulnerable. Potent. Painful. Real.

It feels like death. 

The truth is that the script was never mine and is being burnt to a cinder and reimagined.

Each and every time.

Frame by frame, deconstruction of what was false.

Waiting in the vacant space for the next revelation of truth.

Of knowing. Of love. Of being. Of faith.

Making space for the epic movie of my purest existence to come to life. 

This is rebirth. This is freedom. 

This I choose every time.

People talk about change like it’s some big baddie from a horror movie that’s out for your blood. The scary, stalking predator that’s waiting to get you when you step around the corner.

Nope. Change is happening all the time. It’s just the changes you ‘don’t’ want that feel like that. Because they trigger your fear. And the reason they are arising? Because your fear NEEDS to be triggered so that it leaves you. So that you can actually live in truth.

There are two ways to embrace change. The easier way and the harder way. Let’s start with the latter.

The hard way (aka kicking and screaming)

Resist, resist, resist! Ignore the change. Fingers in ears, close your eyes. Run away. Pretend it’s not happening. Build an army to protect yourself from it. Distract and numb yourself at every opportunity.

How is that working for you?

Shall we move onto the easier way (notice I didn’t say easy)

Embrace the change. Be open minded. Feel your emotions and release them. Speak openly about the changes and your concerns / fears / worries / worst case scenarios. Engage support from people who have been through something similar. Get a coach. Learn how to identify and resolve your limiting beliefs, behaviours and thoughts.

See the difference here? 

The hard way – be closed and defensive.

The easier way – be open and curious.

It’s not rocket science, but typically humans go into a fear and panic response whenever there is something new on the horizon. Oh hello anxiety!

When you realise that your inner game is what will help you to skilfully navigate a changing world, things in your life will improve dramatically. You’re the one in charge here silly!

It’s like polishing a turd. Not possible. 

You can however roll it in glitter. It might look nice and snazzy, more appealing on the eye. Yet it’s a temporary fix and that sh!t will still stink.

So the question is how do you take away the smell? How do you make it more attractive? (After all going to the bathroom is something you will need to continue to do for the rest of your life….)

Do you reverse engineer the poop and insert it so that it comes out better? Fragrant and perfectly formed? Made of all the best ingredients?

That seems like a lot of work and a pretty dumb idea….. but it’s what we are doing all the time.

No, it’s not the path.

If you want a better result, you change what you eat. Cut out the crap, adjust your diet. Take supplements or herbs that support your digestion to improve in the short term. Eat your fibre and remove the things that cause you gas and bloating. Get some exercise to move your bowels. You get the picture.

The results at the other end are then something hopefully more palatable. 

Notice again I didn’t say easy. 

We will all need to poop for the rest of our lives. We will also need to change. Life requires it of us. 

It’s the resistance to change which is hard. It’s the stories you tell yourself, denied unexpressed emotions and subconscious belief systems that are the cause of your pain. 

When you master your inner game, change will feel like a challenge you WANT to embrace. When you know it starts from within, you’ll trust that you have the tools to deal with any difficulties that come your way. Because fundamentally, that’s how you’ve been designed. To evolve and grow.

Want to reverse engineer your success? Start with your inner game. 

Because change happens from the inside out.

Remember, 
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo

P.S. Breathwork Detox is here!! What would happen if you cleared away the crap holding you back? More…. peace, freedom, choice…perhaps? Are you ready to find out?  Check out upcoming enrolment dates or book a call with me to learn more. 

How would the world change if we adopted this philosophy? 

If we cared about our environment, our relationships and nature? If we consciously chose to make things better and adding, instead of taking and making them worse? Degrading or regenerating? 

What would life be like? More or less enjoyable?

How about satisfaction? Would it go up or down?

What about peace? Would it be found? Relished, desired even?

What might be possible if we chose to leave a positive contribution instead? To build each other up. To celebrate. To love?

What would be possible then… I wonder. Do you?

What do you say we find out?

​Remember,
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo

P.S. Breathwork Detox is here!! What would happen if you cleared away the crap holding you back? More…. peace, freedom, choice…perhaps? Are you ready to find out?  Check out upcoming enrolment dates or book a call with me to learn more. 

We are not going to create a better world by sticking with our crumbling capitalist economies which rely on destruction and extraction to create value. 

This is the old way. Being at war. Beating the competition. Getting an ‘edge’. Business rivalry. 

Human destructiveness at it’s core. Driven by fear and scarcity. Domination and control. 

There is another way, and the sooner we recognise this, the better our chances of reversing the destruction we have already caused to each other and the planet. 

There is already enough to go around. The problem is distribution. For all the benefits capitalism brings, it creates huge inequalities and suffering. A few doing well at the cost of those at the bottom of the chain. We are particularly guilty of ignoring this fact in the West. We want our smart phones and high fashion but don’t want to face the fact that child labour and rainforest destruction are enabling it. Enabling us. To be less loving and more selfish. As long as we get what we want we are willing to turn a blind eye, and not face the reality which our actions contribute to. This is caused by our desire to avoid self responsibility at all costs.

Whilst we perpetuate business models and the attitude of competition over collaboration we will eat ourselves into oblivion.

All successful species are co-operative in their nature. They help each other to survive. Humans have  become so disconnected from our ecosystem we risk losing touch completely, and ultimately destroying the resources which sustain us and life as we know it. 

As you might be aware I’m starting a new business venture which aims to prevent stress in the workplace, rather than dealing with the fall out when it inevitably occurs. I could make it a very lucrative ‘for profit’ business, or sell the IP to the highest bidder for their competitive advantage. 

But I’m not going to. I’m not playing that kind of game.

I’m here to change the game. 

Hence we are adopting some kind of non-profit model so that the entire world can benefit from the framework and technology we have created. So it can be a positive impact on our workplace culture, communities and humanity.

This is the new paradigm of business leadership in my opinion.

The divide and conquer collection was so last season darling.

​It’s time to break the mould with our new upcoming collaborations. You haven’t seen anything like it, but when you do, you’ll definitely want one. Lucky for you it’s not going to be limited addition, the more the merrier! Get in touch if you’d love to know more.

Remember,
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo

P.S. Breathwork Detox is here!! What would happen if you cleared away the crap holding you back? More…. peace, freedom, choice…perhaps? Are you ready to find out?  Check out upcoming enrolment dates or book a call with me to learn more. 

A friend and I were having a conversation yesterday about marketing and the concept of identifying and communicating to your ‘ideal client’. If you’re in the coaching space no doubt you’ve come across this a million times. If you’re a rebel freedom loving entrepreneur like me I expect you recoil with horror anytime anyone suggests you should identify yours. Funny enough that’s what happened in the conversation and I raised it there and then. We laughed about it, understanding that we both have the same resistance.

The feeling is something like this….I’ve spent the last 10+ years of my life getting out of the ‘box’ that I and society have put me in. I’ll be damned if I’m going to put myself willingly back in!

Furthermore it’s the feeling that if I ‘niche’ down, I’ll somehow turn certain people off from working with me.

All of this is nonsense but is where the logical mind ends up when left to its own devices. It’s often a quite constricted place bearing no semblance of reality.

The actual fact is that I am the niche. The people that are destined to work with me will, because they will be attracted to my specific energy and message. Perhaps they will relate to some of my journey, or something I share on a specific day. It doesn’t matter. In the same way that the river finds its way to the ocean, your clients / soul family / destined connections will find their way for you. The only condition is that you be open to receiving them.

As for my ‘ideal client’, it is you. If you’re reading this somewhere along the lines you’ve connected with what I’ve got to say. That’s why you’re here now, based on shared resonance. On the outside you probably look quite different to me, but on the inside we are probably more similar than you care to imagine.

I’ve had heartbreak, I’ve had loss, I’ve had challenges. I’ve hidden it all from the world for years and put on a veneer of competency and success. When the cracks started to appear years ago, I had no choice but to attend to them. That decision has led me to who I am now.

No really, it’s true. There is such a thing. It’s just not very widely known or understood. In fact it’s often derided, judged or feared.

It seems ironic, when most of society is searching for something so desperately to feel better, fill the gap and take the edge off, that the one thing that will help is shunned.

The pill is something you have at your disposal. It doesn’t come from a pharmacy or doctor. It doesn’t even come from being in nature, although that of course helps.

Firstly let’s just look at our culture, especially in the western world. What do the majority of our problems involve? Stress, anxiety, depression, poor physical health, obesity, diabetes, heart disease, cancer….. the list goes on.

If I told you there were cures for all of these things would you believe me? You’d probably say, but Philippa, how could it be so simple? The human body is so complicated, it’s going wrong all the time…. Nobody has found the cure for {x} what makes you think you can just snap your fingers and know the answer?! How arrogant of you!!!

And here I stand willing to bear the title of ‘arrogant’ or ‘wishful thinker’ because my experience has led me to something completely different. That is understanding the SOUL. The medical profession isn’t interested in that, hence why they will struggle to find a cure – because they’re not even investigating the root cause.

The root cause by the way, is emotion. Unresolved emotion to be exact. How do I know this? From the last 7 years experimenting with breathwork and other modalities which have repeatedly led me back to the same lesson – emotion is key to resolving all physical, mental, spiritual, energetic and emotional issues which manifest for us humans.

​I’ve seen it in myself and witnessed it first hand with clients. The majority of us are so numb (hands up this was me a few years ago) to our bodies and our emotions it feels like we don’t experience them. Or we do but it’s some flavour of ‘it’s ok’ or ‘fine’ with the occasional angry outburst that we mistakenly think we are keeping things ‘on a level’.

No, this is numbness.
Emotionally blocked.
Disconnected.
Usually also ‘in our heads’.

Mentally overthinking as a result of the unresolved emotional garbage we are holding onto which is trying to find a way to resolution, if only we could actually feel it!

Anxiety. Depression. Stress. Physical Illness.

All a result of the emotions you don’t want to feel. Because they were the uncomfortable emotions in childhood that were overwhelming and painful. So you created a way to survive, stuffing them below the surface where nobody could see. Most of us don’t want to face the reality of our past. We bury it instead, believing it’s the best thing and that it won’t then harm us anymore.

Unfortunately the soul doesn’t work like that. All that pain is still inside, just now you’re numb. Like you’re walking around with a splinter in your body but you’ve also got an anaesthetic drip fed into you which pumps out the numbing agent when you begin to feel any pain. Over and over again. Treating the effect rather than addressing the cause.

Look around. Notice what’s going on. What we have created as a collective.

FAKE. PHONEY. F*CKERY.

​The world we live in is upside down. Don’t show emotion. Don’t say what you think. Keep yourself to yourself. Physically distance yourself to protect yourself (the irony). Connect via internet platforms which encourage and incentivise more fakery and B.S.

Is this a world you want to live in?

I have to say for me that’s a no! Whilst technology has its benefits, we’ve taken it too far.
People have stopped saying what they think for fear of being ‘censored’ or outcast. Random strangers attacking others just for the sake of it, because they believe they are ‘entitled’ to.
The internet has turned into a toxic emotional dumping ground – or perhaps it was from the start? Humans – we need to grow up.

Your emotional trauma should not be dropped on every single person you come into contact with – but that’s exactly what is happening on a day to day basis.

I’m sick of the righteous anger that is projected all over the place. How about instead of spewing all your own unresolved drama onto others you sit your ass down and take a look within – and get real with what’s truly going on.

The truth is…..
You’re scared.
You’re hurt.
You’re upset.
You’re feeling helpless.
You’re feeling [insert your emotional flavour here]

All of this lies underneath the anger and attack. The food addictions, alcohol, drugs, etc is all a way of coping with the sea of emotion that lies beneath the surface, waiting to erupt at any moment.

The layers go like this… Anger
Addictions
Fear / Terror
Grief

None of the things you want to feel – except the first one because it makes you feel powerful. Let’s be honest, nobody really wants to feel anything at the bottom of the list.
But the reality is this is what will set us free and change the negative patterns of a lifetime, and even a collective!

Becoming more emotionally sensitive, not less, is actually the answer. It is the pathway to true freedom and fulfilment. Everything else is a hollow façade, and at some point it will either come crashing down around you with major collateral damage, or you’ll dwindle into a shell of your potential and shut life out completely. I’ve done both so I’m not here to judge!

I’m here to say there is another way. I’m done with the fakery. I’m fed up of the hiding and pretending everything is fine. Look around. Look within. It’s not.

The only way we make positive changes in this world, is by making positive changes within ourselves. Nobody else can do that for you.

It seems we’re always looking for a solution to a problem, which doesn’t directly address the cause of the problem. Until we do so, we are just cutting the top off of a weed and wondering why it keeps growing back. The only way to resolve it is to get to the root cause and remove that. Anything else is band aids for bullet wounds. It might work temporarily but you’ll be bleeding again before too long.

There’s a reason you’re avoiding the pain of the past. It was so intense you didn’t want to face it. The chances are you didn’t have the support to do so. However, this is not an excuse to continue to bleed on the people who didn’t cut you. The only way out is through. I’m sharing this to save you time, energy, effort and disappointment. Believe me I’ve spent years attempting to avoid doing my emotional work (including recent years as a breathwork facilitator – the irony!!) but honestly, it is the ONLY thing that actually heals long term.

Whether you believe me or not, it doesn’t matter. Whether you like this message or not, I don’t care. I’m here to share the truth so that more people can be free of their past and free from the pain and create a life they deserve, on their terms. If that’s you, I’d love to support you.

Everything you want is on the other side of your unresolved emotions (including fear). 

Remember,
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.

Philippa xo