Last night as I walked along watching the sunset, I passed by this bench and stopped. It was one of the last spots I remember spending time with my grandmother. I drew a breath and remembered some of the stories from her life. She was always one of those real ‘characters’ that had tales to tell that were sometimes SO far fetched we often wondered if she made them up. Perhaps some of them, certainly, but she was so audacious that I believe that many of them actually happened. As children my brother and I would ask her to recount these stories and it kept us entertained for hours on end.
Like the time my uncle ran away from home and cooked sausages along the river, or when her kids painted a whole room in black and white without her knowing. Then there were tales of mystical India in the 80’s, royal sailing connections, NOT being permitted to study at RADA and her father throwing her shoes on the fire. It was always a rip roaring ride, often interspersed with memorised poetry that she enjoyed immensely. She definitely had a penchant for spinning a good yarn!
As I reflected and laughed to myself, I began to ponder my life and started to recount the many varied experiences I’ve had.
Many tales to tell...
As I sat on the bench a flood of different memories arose, each one more ridiculous than the last. Quitting my entire life to move to Brazil. Travelling overland 7000 miles from Lima to Buenos Aires in a converted army truck. Riding in the drivers cockpit of a Mexico City subway train. Hosting a shaman from the Amazon at my penthouse apartment overlooking Ipanema beach. Working in a psychedelic retreat centre…. And then the silly little things. The totally crazy synchronicities that I’ve experienced living from a place of flow and alignment, following the path of my soul.
I recognise that many of these experiences were from a very different era. Let’s call it pre-Covid times. They were also the reward for a long twelve year slog in the corporate world that burned out my soul and left me in desperate need of adventure. I’ve spent the last 5 years filling up that cup, and consider myself blessed to have had the opportunity to do so. Who knows what travel in the future will look like.
As I thought about my life, I realised that at best, I’ll have stories to pass on, and at worst, I’ll have stories to pass on. Every one of us is writing our story in each moment. Moment by moment. That’s how things get created. Repeated action, experience, codification.
What stories are you telling?
We are assimilating bits and bobs and they ‘make’ us who we are. Some of the stories are empowering, the vast majority are not. They are based on loss, separation, pain, conflict, drama and judgement. One way to unite the people? Give them a common enemy. Cos’ haters gonna hate and all that. We’re telling stories to our children before they’re even born. What happens to us in our lives directly imprints the same stories onto the younger generation. Emotions experienced by the mother during pregnancy are felt by the unborn child. The programming begins earlier than you think.
Once we physically arrive, the onslaught continues and is assumed into the subconscious mind before you can say ‘Bob's your uncle’… Many of the stories in society are false. Plain lies. Perpetuated and spread unconsciously, sometimes labelled as ‘tradition’ or ‘how things are’. Yet we fail to recognise that we are passing on ‘human behaviour’ by rote and from a place of both ignorance and arrogance.
The ego has us believe that we know ‘right’ and how life ‘should be lived’. False. The majority of us have no clue about living. Freedom of thought. Relating. Parenting. Even basic self-care and nutrition.
We are ignorant, and risk passing on more layers of ignorance to the next generation. In this moment of stillness and introspection we have the opportunity to consider what we choose to hold dear, and to release everything that is poisoning our hearts and minds. Stories have the capacity to be a blessing or a curse. The right story can rewrite history. The wrong story can end it once and for all.
My path lies with re-writing my story and co-creating a magical, harmonious and empowered life.
How about you? What stories will you tell the future generation?
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.