It's important to feel and resolve our emotions, especially the ones we judge as 'negative' such as shame, guilt, fear, anger and grief. Beneath it all, all emotion is neutral - it's the resistance we have to feeling it and the story we tell ourselves about what it means that causes our suffering.
When you can experience a feeling or emotion within yourself without attaching to the meaning, you reclaim your freedom. Bit by bit you'll get your life back.
If we ignore our emotional heaviness, we will be driven by it. This means we end up taking action to 'avoid' the negative consequences of something - running in the opposite direction. We are not facing forward, into what we actually want.
Let love guide you
When we summon the courage to dive in and resolve our pain something magical happens. Instead of running away, the spark of our desire ignites and we begin to be guided by a much greater force - love. We turn to welcome in what we actually want and need.
Our actions are driven from a different place - they become fuelled by love. Our tank fills up and we have more to share. This is the work - to release that within you which blocks the experience of love.
Love is the sacred rocket fuel that will launch you into living your life's purpose - and the best thing is it costs nothing. Even better, it's already here - now it's just a matter of choosing it and welcoming it into your heart.
How would your life change if you were fuelled by love?
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.
Taken from - Women Who Run With The Wolves - Clarissa Pinkola Estés, P64 - Tales of Blackbeard, Naiveté & The Predator Within
Even though from a book aimed at females - I see that this applies equally to both men and women as we all have our instinctive, natural nature.
“So, when women dream of the natural predator, it is not always or solely a message about the interior life. Sometimes it is a message about the threatening aspects of the culture one lives in, whether it be a small but brutal culture at the office, one within their own family, the lands of their neighbourhood, or as wide as their own religious or national culture. As you can see, each group and culture appears to have its own natural psychic predator, and we see from history that there are eras in cultures during which the predator is identified with and allowed absolute sovereignty until the people who believe otherwise become a tide.
While much psychology emphasises the familial causes of angst in humans, the cultural component carries as much weight, for culture is the family of the family. If the family of the family has various sicknesses, then all families within that culture will have to struggle with the same malaises. In my heritage, there is a saying ‘cultura cura’, culture cures. If the culture is a healer, the families learn how to heal; they will struggle less, be more reparative, far less wounding, far more graceful and loving. In a culture where the predator rules, all new life needing to be born, all old life needing to be gone, is unable to move and the soul-lives of its citizenry are paralysed with both fear and spiritual famine.
Why this intruder which, in women’s dreams, most often takes the shape of an intrusive male, seeks to attack the instinctual psyche and its wildish knowing powers in particular, no one can say for certain. We say it is the nature of the thing. Yet we find this destructive process exacerbated when the culture surrounding a woman touts, nourishes and protects destructive attitudes toward the deep instinctual and soulful nature. Thusly, these destructive cultural values - to which the predator avidly agrees - grow stronger within the collective psyche of all its members. When a society exhorts its people to be distrustful of and to shun the deep instinctual life, then an auto-predatory element in each individual psyche is strengthened and accelerated.
Yet even in an oppressive culture, in whichever women the Wild Woman still lives and thrives or even glimmers, there will be ‘key’ questions asked, not only the ones we find useful for insight into ourselves but also ones about our culture. ‘What stands behind these proscriptions I see in the outer world? What goodness or usefulness of the individual, of the culture, the earth, of human nature has been killed or lies dying here?’ As these issues are examined, the woman is enabled to act according to her own abilities, according to her own talents. To take the world into one’s arms and to act toward it in a soul-filled and soul-strengthened manner is a powerful act of wildish spirit.
It is for this reason that the wilding nature in women must be preserved - and even, in some instances, guarded with extreme vigilance - so that it is not suddenly abducted and garrotted. It is important to feed this instinctive nature, to shelter it, to give it increase, for even in the most restrictive conditions of culture, family or psyche, there is far less paralysis in women who have remained connected to the deep and wild instinctual nature. Thought there may be injury if a woman is captured and/or tricked into remaining naive and compliant, there is still left adequate energy to overcome the captor, to evade it, to outrun it, and eventually to sunder and render it for their own constructive use.”
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.
It’s nobody else’s business or responsibility to create your life for you. Remaining or becoming dependent upon a source outside of yourself to realise your desires, ambitions and dreams will ultimately lead you to heartbreak, resentment and disappointment. Everything you dream inside yourself is possible. If you can see it, then it is available and it’s there for you to claim - should you wish to. Or perhaps a better thing comes along and you choose that instead.