I know there’s someone you admire in your life right now, you see them, and they have it all together and are going after what they want. They’re living life on their terms and are completely unapologetic about it. They’re confident, charismatic and fulfilled with their life on all levels and it exudes from every pore. You dream of what they have….And yet it seems so unlikely and impossible for you.
It feels totally and utterly out of reach, but you can’t stop thinking about it. It’s like the itch that won’t go away. Do you ever wonder how they keep their cool? How they just seem to float on the surface of life and not get caught up in the bullshit? How they create and remain focused on what they want?
How everything they touch turns to gold? How they seem to be un*fuckwithable in the pursuit of their dreams? Let me tell you a SECRET because t’s not rocket science, far from it. It’s simple in fact;
They damn well know who they are and what they are here to do.
They are connected to themselves and to something greater, and seek their guidance and direction from within. ONLY THEN do they go out and CREATE in the world, from a place of CLARITY, CONNECTION and BELIEF. They live by their inner compass, the one that points to true north all day long and leads them step by step to the field of dreams.
The place where everything and anything is possible...but you’re not there yet.
Plying on the edge
Perhaps you’ve played around with getting there, but you’ve never been consistent. You got a glimpse and then took your foot off the accelerator pedal. In fact it’s like you’ve been driving a car pressing the gas and the break at the same time. You’re bunny hopping along in life, and wondering why the ride is far from smooth, and the problem is glaringly obvious.
IT'S YOU! You're inconsistent with your inner connection. You change your mind like the wind. You don’t know what your values and are, let alone be able to stick by them. You prioritise everyone else’s needs before your own. You allow your life force to slip slide away to stuff that drains and bores you.
You break the promises you make to yourself all the time. And above all, you lost faith and forgot how to dream. Somehow, somewhere in the midst of time....
YOU FORGOT WHO YOU ARE AND WHY YOU'RE HERE. It is strangling your soul and you feel it daily. There’s something not quite right and you can’t identify what, but it’s obvious and nagging at you consistently. If only you had the time, space, money etc then it would all magically go away and you’d feel whole.
NOPE - Sorry that’s not how it works.
Stop looking outside
All the money in the world is NOT going to make you happy, if the one thing you’re missing is yourself. Wherever you go, there you are. So unless you deal with the things making you unhappy on the INSIDE, the OUTSIDE is not going to change.
Not now. Not ever. Period. The end.
The people that have what they want? They figured it out from the start. Creation begins WITHIN.
Internal alignment births external reality. Perception is projection. What you perceive in your minds eye you create. Like it or not, it’s true. The people that are unf*ckwithable are a rare breed. They've forgone the frivolous pleasures of life to cultivate greater meaning and satisfaction because they know it comes from within.
They have the HABITS and MINDSET that consistently maintain their internal anchor and DEEP INNER KNOWING. The CONNECTION with their SOUL. The one thing that does, BEYOND EVERYTHING, have access to higher wisdom and the right action for YOU. The compass you’ve experienced in brief moments but never quite mastered....
Becoming your own master
What would change if you KNEW how master your life and your inner compass? To listen, trust and follow the urges of your soul? To drop the baggage and maintain alignment with your highest calling?To become one of those people you admire - and show up unapologetically in your life? To express all of who you are, and love yourself to boot?
Take a deep breath.
Allow yourself to dream for a moment. Try the hat on for size and feel what that would mean for you.
NO MORE hiding or playing small. NO MORE second guessing. NO MORE watching everyone get theirs and not getting yours. NO MORE wishing, hoping, dreaming of some day when….
NO MORE getting off-track and self-sabotaging. NO MORE SELF DOUBT.
INSTEAD. More energy. More satisfaction. Greater trust, faith and belief in yourself and life. More confidence, clarity and commitment. More pleasure, money, [INSERT GREATEST DESIRE] because you KNOW that you’re worthy of it. More love, freedom and ultimately…. PEACE
The PEACE that comes with being in your place, YOUR place, nobody else’s. The meeting point where your soul and your heart come together and you can relax, surrender and trust. Where magic and miracles are possible and you birth them into the world from the inside out. When you finally come home to yourself.
And in this place? You become unf*ckwithable.
Laying your true foundations
A wild raging storm cannot uproot the foundations you’ve built and regardless of what life throws at you, you have the tools to overcome any challenge and thrive. Because trust built on faith built on the platform of your soul is connected with both the divine and earthly realms. In that place you become the bridge for the magical and mundane to do their merry dance and create heaven on earth.
Your life on your terms. Take a moment to breathe it all in…..YES, YES, YES! But how do I create this? I hear you ask. It’s remarkably simple, so simple in fact that you’ve overlooked it your whole life.
It’s been under your nose all along.
>>> YOUR BREATH <<<
Your breath is the bridge between the two worlds, it opens and energises you and brings you into connection with the divine.
As you inhale you are breathing in life, as you exhale you send your manifestations forth into the world. In order to master your life, first master your breath. It is the most powerful direct way to access your inner realm and remain anchored to it.
Once the connection is made, it’s just a matter of plugging back into the infinite knowledge that resides there.No gimmicks, nothing fancy.Your breath can and will change your life, but only if you surrender and allow it to.
Are you ready to uncover your very own field of dreams and breathe it to life? To really become to unf*ckwithable?
Ten years ago my life fell apart in front of my eyes. It was a gut-wrenching and devastating experience that upended my very foundation and dumped me unceremoniously and hysterically wailing onto my ass. Little did I know it would be the making of me. So much has happened in this wild journey to reclaim myself and I feel compelled to share some nuggets so that they may also help you.
A love letter to my former self
Oh, my dear girl, you’re not broken. You never were. What you’re seeing now are the lengths you went to, to avoid yourself. The facade you built to keep yourself safe and protected in in this harsh and bitter world. You did what you needed to do in order to survive. There is no shame in that.
But now you see, that none of that was you. Well, it was, yes, in a way, but in other ways, it was just a shadow of the real you. Because the real you is so beautiful that you cannot even begin to comprehend its brilliance and perfection at this moment. Because you feel so broken.
Believe it or not, it’s the exact place you NEED to be right now, in order to recognise what you’re not.
This pain is confirmation of that truth, this is the stuff you’ve been running and hiding from for years. Life is giving you an opportunity to break free and release the shackles that have weighed you down, to step away from what is false and seek the truth. The truth of who and what you really are.
This journey we are on...
Now I don’t promise this journey is going to be easy or pleasant. In fact, it won’t be. It is going to challenge every fibre of your being because those fibres are so interwoven with lies, that it’ll feel like you’re coming apart at the seams. And that’s because you are.
Once you begin pulling the thread you’ll see and feel how tied up you’ve become in your own bullsh*t and untruths, and the mask you’ve been wearing all along. It will expose the armour that you’ve built and the walls you’ve erected to stay safe and defend yourself.
Perhaps you don’t believe me, but I’m here to tell you that none of that is you. Who you truly are is beyond knowing and cannot be distilled into a word or sentence.
You just ARE - EVERYTHING.
Each and every potential of the universe. It’s plain for me to see. This unravelling is simply life’s way of resetting you to who you’ve always been.
Lifting the mask
That mask you’ve been wearing? It’s a protection mechanism, and it’s learned behaviour. When you were younger it was necessary as you developed ways to cope. One of those was by fitting in. In a world full of danger, it’s better to fit in and stick with the script. Even when you know in your heart of hearts that the story doesn’t end well. You’re not alone in that either, because thousands, if not millions of people are in the same boat. Wearing masks and pretending to be something they’re not.
The perfect person doesn’t exist, yet we’re all trying to emulate what society wants us to be. Another one of the masses - beige, bland and cookie-cutter neat people. Fit into the prescribed box and you’ll be just fine. Give them what they want and your life will easy. You took the bait hook line and sinker. And you know what? You didn’t even know you’d subscribed. All of this was going on from before you were born. Somewhere, sometime, over millennia (or perhaps never before) people lost touch with their hearts.
Plugged into the machinations of society and generations of family trauma we unconsciously passed on the emotional baggage without realising it. Patterns of behaviour that were ‘normal’ in our family became ‘normalised’ without question.
Somehow we took dysfunction and made it healthy and acceptable.
You’ll realise in the future that ‘It’s just the way things are’ was an invitation to remain asleep and maintain the status quo. This pivotal time has arrived to help you find your own balance and take a new direction in your life.
I want you to know this, none of it is your fault. You can’t fight what you can’t see.
Stepping into the shadows
An invisible enemy cannot be defeated. It must first be brought into plain sight. Only then can the healing begin. The intricate dance of shadow work reveals the wounds that don’t want to be uncovered, and as you know, it’s very difficult to catch a shadow - particularly your own. Children learn from their experiences, especially in the first seven years of life. They are like sponges, soaking in the world and becoming hypnotised in the process - both figuratively and literally.
Those first years are so important, yet often contain the biggest traumas (and I don’t mean they are violent) that affect deeply our nature and beliefs as we develop. We mould ourselves around life more than life moulds us. Our perceptions of the world are implanted very early on, perhaps even at conception. As I said, you can’t fix what you don’t know is broken - yet with awareness you can begin putting the shattered pieces back together again.
Here’s the revelation
At this moment you’re being shown what parts of you need your love and attention. The fragmented aspects of your psyche are being unearthed. Life is directing you to heal and grow, and grow up too. It’s time to expand and leave your old identity behind and re-discover who you truly are. I know it’s painful, but it will be the making of you, I promise. You’ll look back in years to come and realise this is the best thing that ever happened.
It’s happening FOR you; to crack open the divine essence of your soul.
You weren’t to know that this pain you’re now experiencing has been carried in your body for years. How could you, when you were so numbed out? When you were petrified of your feelings and you would burst into tears of frustration when you couldn’t explain how you felt?
Your coping mechanisms served you well until, well, they just didn’t anymore. Instead, they created your prison from which life is now attempting to set you free. It’s your personal invitation to write a more nourishing programme and move towards a bright, aligned, more authentic future.
Starting to see more clearly
Now it’s clear for you to see what’s been hidden away in plain sight this whole time, and is sucking the lifeblood out of you. All the unexpressed pain and grief you’ve carried for a lifetime but have been too distracted to acknowledge exists, let alone allow yourself to feel or express. The anger and sadness that never had an outlet and consumed you from the inside out.
The shame and guilt that kept you separate from your innocence and joy. It’s all laid out intricately in front of your eyes so that you can acknowledge, understand, and heal it and in doing so you will weave a beautiful new life. You can kick, scream and pout all you like, but the process has already begun. Whilst none of this is your fault, it is now your responsibility to deal with it.
Whether you like it or not, the only way out is through. Yet I know from your character that you have everything you need to take on the challenge. Whilst you might feel like you’re fighting for your life (and in some ways you are), know that everything you want is on the other side of this battle. It’s time to take your position and face off with your demons. You’ll come to realise that this is the perfect plan playing out. Life is more intelligent than you could ever imagine and will lead you home to yourself if you trust and allow it to.
This journey will lead you to discover your truth.
Leading your journey
You’ll meet many people along the way, doing the same thing. Coming home to themselves. You’ll recognise them easily as your soul family. Don’t worry it will all make sense in time. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You’ll realise that soon enough too, and one day wake up as me, in the future, writing you this letter.
I love you so much. Thanks for doing an amazing job of being me. I never doubted your ability to get through it. Like I said you were stuck, not broken. One day in the future you’ll feel more whole than you can ever imagine. I know because that day has arrived...
It’s called today.
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.
I’m not sure if you’ve realised yet, but trying to control the world around you right now is like attempting to wrestle a greased up pig. No matter how much you twist and turn there’s just no way of pinning that slippery sucker down, and just when you think you made it, you’re face down in the mud and feeling rather frustrated.
All that effort, blood, sweat and tears and you’re being defied by a farm animal. It’s quite the spectacle don’t you think?
Here’s a revolutionary thought for you. How about - you just let the pig be the pig?
Doing all it’s regular piggy business. You know… rooting for truffles and turning once green fields into mud baths. That’s what the pig likes, and it’s what he’s here to do. Trying to get the pig to follow orders, write an email or cook you dinner is going to be a futile effort don’t you think?
With this in mind….Since when did you declare yourself a pig wrangler? Talk about setting yourself up for failure!
Who's the boss?
The same is true when it comes to life. The vast majority of us have been conditioned to attempt to control life. There are certain expectations we create, of how things SHOULD be. And guess what?
Life shows us who’s boss.
Newsflash! You don’t get to force your puny human will on nature. She’ll show you who’s in charge here. Just like that slippery pig did.
YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME HUMAN!
Go and try your manipulation and control tactics elsewhere!
And the truth is unwittingly you already are. Probably in most areas of your life (Let’s be honest, more likely ALL areas). It’s what we have been taught to do.
Order. Control. Logic. Understanding. Manipulation
Humans like to put things in boxes in order to understand. It gives us the feeling of safety, and when we feel safe, we know where we are. It’s a form of self-soothing and it feels comforting because we know where we stand. Yet it is all an ILLUSION.
What do you truly believe?
The vast majority of what you know to be true is just because you BELIEVED it to be true. You consumed the story, confirmed your own inner narrative relative to it, and programmed it into your subconscious. Just like that. No more effort required.
This is great on one level. Who wants to have to remember how to walk each time we get up? Lucky that you installed that programme at two years old and don’t have to read your operating manual every day, huh! That would be annoying! And yet there are many programmes you installed long ago in your subconscious (whether consciously or more likely NOT) that do not serve you. Holding onto some of these is actually causing you more harm than good, and the most annoying part - you don’t even know they’re there.
Are you ready to look at things differently?
It’s like looking thought a pair of sunglasses, all your beliefs and programming will shape and tint your view of the world. And you know when your glasses get all smeared up and yucky? That’s what most of us have going on. We can’t see clearly, because there’s plenty of sh*t in the way. If your glasses are dirty, your view of the world is too. What you see on the outside, is actually a reflection of what you’re blissfully unaware of on the inside. The filthy glasses reflect back to you the unresolved emotional stuff you’ve been carrying around your whole life.
Remember that slippery pig? That’s your emotional baggage that is attempting to break free and resolve itself. It’s just that you’re so focused on controlling the pig that it can’t do its thing. It can’t be fully whole and free. The same goes for you. Whilst you’re fighting a war within yourself you cannot realise inner peace. The outer world is a reflection of the inner world.
And guess what, the only way you’ll change what you see, is by going WITHIN and changing what you feel and believe. Your perception is the reality you see in the world. The beauty of life is that it WILL bring you the perfect situation required in order to resolve your emotional wounds. In fact, it’s doing it every single day. You’re just so busy trying to control life that you don’t see the opportunity.
It's time to free yourself
And the way I see it? You’re missing out. All the energy you’re utilising in avoiding facing your sh*t is draining you. It’s keeping your heart guarded and holding you back from showing up as the powerful revolutionary human that you know is inside of you. It’s keeping you stuck, frustrated and depressed. Whilst those are valid experiences, that’s not what life is about.
In the same way the pig gets to be free, SO DO YOU. And when you do?
Life will flow more, you’ll feel relaxed and at ease, trust and faith will show up, your energy will return, and if you really commit to facing your sh*t??
Then you’ll bring home the bacon ;)
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.