I’ve bitten my lip twice in two days. As it just happened again eating breakfast I paused and noticed. It was painful yes, but more than that it was a sign. Literally. Stop biting your lip! It hurts!
Truth is - it does hurt. If you don’t share what’s on your mind it will rot you from the inside out. Slowly but surely, it will eat you alive.
It’s no surprise we hold back. Culturally we have been conditioned to - particularly in the UK. Don't rock the boat, keep the peace, be nice. All that nonsense. But more than that, we now have cancel culture - where saying something remotely different, or which is interpreted in certain way - automatically turns you into a monster and hunted out of the village with pitchforks… quite literally.
I’ve dabbled with saying what I really think. If you’ve read my writing or seen my videos you probably think I’m quite astute at it. But what if I told you that’s probably 50% of what I think. I’m making that number up but the truth is, even at this point, I’m still not fully unfiltered and raw in sharing my honest thoughts. Why? Good question. The number one thing that stops us all. Fear.
Fear of rejection, being cancelled, being outcast, thought of as crazy, upsetting someone, fear of attack, abandonment, reputational damage, losing friends/family, losing credibility, wanting to keep the peace, fear of confrontation…the list goes on.
What it boils down to is the fear of death - specifically ego death.
I can’t say that because….
They will be upset if….
Just keep it to yourself….
That’s how the story goes. Keep schtum and you’ll be safe. And guess what, the ego likes safety. Loves it! Yet this illusion of safety is eventually what will lead to our downfall. The lack of capacity that the ego (or controlling mind) has to adapt and change. If it had it’s way, everything would be the same and we’d all live happily ever after.
Not going to happen. Wake up.
The tight grip the ego has on us is what is going to lead to our downfall. If we cannot move beyond it, we will deliver our own extinction. Fact. There is no denying that the human race and our planet is in a time of crisis. Go ahead and bury your head in the sand if you like, but the reality is not going away. We are destroying our own habitat, the one we need for our very survival. We have broken systems that we pretend are healthy, which are killing our people and environment. This is the truth. And you biting your lip does nothing to change this fact.
Opening your mouth and saying what you really think, might however.
All those fears? They are illusions. Merely thoughts that come and go, which we can choose to believe or not. It’s up to us.
Sitting gazing at our navels whilst Rome burns is not the answer. Speaking up and taking action for what you believe is right, is.
Leadership is not easy. Whoever said it should be?
True leadership takes courage. It takes grit, determination and the desire for a better future.
It takes standing up and saying what you think even if it’s in opposition to everyone in the room.
It is questioning the narrative when 99.9999% of the population believes it.
It means going against the grain, pissing people off, being judged, ridiculed and laughed at.
It’s being prepared to lose everything you have to stand up for what you truly believe in.
Leadership is the path of the warrior - who is fighting for LIFE.
A better life for all. One where we can thrive and prosper in harmony.
As you know, we are far from this place. The disparities across the globe are great, and the distribution of wealth is piled at the top. Our world is not a just place, and you biting your lip is not going to change that fact.
Saying what you truly believe in however, might.
If you move your personal desires aside for a moment, what deeply matters to you? Pause for a moment and take a breath. If you were alone on a desert island what would you miss most? What is important to you? What fires you?
There is a desire within all of us for a happy healthy life. Where we live in harmony with others and there’s enough to go around. It’s mainly the media marketing machine that has us in the West believe otherwise. It’s all a facade. When you peel it back, every human seeks connection, love and security.
Again the ego is scared of these things. They are risky because we’ve been led to believe that there’s not enough to go around. If we believe that thought then we hoard and stockpile, believing we must fight to survive. Let’s be clear - there is enough food to go around. There is enough money. However it’s not the amounts - it is the distribution that’s the problem. It’s all hoarded and stockpiled by the people at the top. The tech billionaires, secret societies, and high level elite that run the world. Don’t believe me? Take a look around. Where is the money flowing to? Straight to the top with a little bit of a trickle for the little man at the bottom, just enough to keep him working and in check - secure and unquestioning. Running along on the hamster wheel, just getting by and being thankful for the opportunity.
If you thought slavery was abolished in the 1800’s think again. It just changed forms. Mortgages and fancy cars are the invisible shackles that keep the human race enslaved, and moreover, jubilantly happy about it!
We do not live in a free society. Welcome to the Truman Show.
It takes immense courage to think and speak differently in a world which is enslaved to a narrative.
Does that mean you shouldn’t do it? Hell no.
It’s exactly why the world demands that you do it!
If we keep believing the same script, we will keep marching over the edge of the cliff to our ultimate death. One by one, following the person in front, our life force will be extinguished and it will be too late to do anything about it. Blindly following along, failing to question or think for yourself will have detrimental consequences for you and the rest of us.
If someone is beginning to question, to raise their voice in opposition - I beg you to get curious and remain open. Contemplate:
Why does this person think that? What other meaning could it have? How might this apply to me?
Defensiveness is a protection mechanism of ego. It will shut down your capacity to objectively consider the world.
Ignorance is bliss…until it isn’t.
We cannot go on pretending that things will go back to normal. It’s not happening. We are standing on the precipice of a new way of being, literally. It is a painful and necessary process in the evolution of humanity. You can either resist it or pick up tools and get involved as an active component. It’s your choice.
Will you walk blindly over the cliff?
Or are you prepared to stand up, break ranks and lead in a different direction - even if you’re totally on your own?
That is leadership.
If you’ve read this far, that is what you’re here to do.
Changing entire structures and cultures is no easy task. That’s why it’s going to take hundreds, thousands, millions, and billions of people to collectively turn the ship. One person at a time, right where they are now. Right where you are now.
Perhaps the task feels overwhelming, but please rest assured there are many others who wish to right the ship and sail for better horizons. It’s simply a matter of finding them - and the easiest way to do that is stand up and share your truth. Stop biting your lip and saying what you really mean because that’s the only way they’ll be able to hear you and follow your lead.
After all, you’re the leader you’ve been waiting for.
The dust on your forehead is the crown you’ve been searching for your whole damn life.
Now straighten up, get on your soap box and speak as if millions of people all over the world are listening - because they are.
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.
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I see the you - the one inside. It’s time to bring that you OUT. I know it’s there because I was once you - scared of my own potential and power - worried about rocking the boat - fearful standing up for what I truly believe - and resistant to making the changes I needed to bring my incredible potential to life.
We all have it - this potential. Yet all too often it gets squashed along the way, as children we are told, don’t dream to big, be realistic, get a proper job etc etc. I bought into the story too. We all did. But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. There is a secret door within you which will take you to a totally different dimension - one where all of you gets to come out and play. Just like it should.
That door is your breath. It is the secret portal you’ve been looking for - hidden from plain sight - and yet it has always been at the edges of your awareness - calling you home. Calling you to alignment. Calling you to greatness. Yet the outside world has been very loud for very long, so it’s near impossible to hear the whisper. But you just did. That’s why you’re here, and that’s why you’re reading this. Everything comes together in perfect timing. That’s the beauty of the breath - it knows perfect timing - and it knows you intimately - and it’s here to reveal it’s gifts to you. Are you ready to receive the keys to the kingdom and set yourself free?
Now is the time. This is the moment. There is no other. Your destiny awaits. Your life is calling you forward.
No, not the life you’ve lived up until now - the small, contracted and ‘hide my light under a bushel’ type. You can forget all of that. It was just the warm up baby! The life that’s calling is the one you know you should be living. The one that feels so effortless and aligned that you can’t quite believe it’s yours - that you ACTUALLY get to live it! A life that feels in flow, purposeful and expansive. Imagine that all of the beliefs about who you ‘should’ be and what life ‘should’ be like just disintegrated in a second and the whole of infinity opened up before your very eyes. You see and truly understand that anything is possible, and that you actually get to create what you want and to live life fully switched ON! Full power! The realisation that you are the master of your destiny, and that your stories are just that, stories, that can be released and new BETTER ones created in their wake. Just imagine being in this place - where anything is possible.
Take a breath.
Here. It’s right here. Right now.
Everything is possible.
Yes, let me repeat.
EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE.
Don’t believe me? Look around. How did this all happen? Is there someone, somewhere doing what you want to do? 100% yes. Is there this internet thingy that can connect you with someone on the other side of the world for a dinner date? Yep. Are there a million needs that require a solution?
You bet. It’s just a belief away. Everything is possible.
In this space there is life - expansion - freedom and unlimited potential. When did you forget to dream? It’s a slow creep, but it gets to most people in the end. The very good news is that there’s a way to change the game and turn your life completely around.
I say this because it’s true, as this has been my life path. A few years ago I left my highly
successful corporate career to seek meaning and purpose. I had no clue where to start, but I knew I needed to tear everything down and completely start over from scratch. I quit my high flying career and moved to Brazil. No plans, no nothing. Free falling into the unknown.
During those years it became evident how deeply conditioned my psyche had become to what the world deems is ‘acceptable’ or successful or ‘meaningful’. The more I dug in, the clearer It became that I was living someone else’s life, based on societal measures of success. Climb the ladder, get the accolades, earn the money etc. These were all well and good, I am grateful for the rich experience I had on this part of my journey. However there was still a sense of emptiness which I felt that could not be satisfied, no matter how many fancy dinners or exotic holidays I took.
The problem was - my soul was hungry. It was hungry for meaning. And everything around me felt so meaningless. Trivial. Trite even. It just felt so dull and boring, like this wasn’t meant to be how I lived my life. Surely there was more?!
I jumped off the metaphorical cliff six years ago, and lo and behold I was caught. It’s been a wildly fulfilling journey ever since. One which I would give my life over again for. Because in that moment of blind faith and desperation, I found what I can only describe as my true self. The self that had been covered over by rubble, left for dead and written out of the story. The one that was choking on the dust, making do with scraps and hoping there was light at the end of the tunnel (read 20 years of happy retirement after working myself / my soul to the bone). It wasn’t going to be my story as it turns out because my soul had other ideas. It had an escape plan!
The escape plan was canny! Make me so uncomfortable that I had to move! By any means
necessary. Squeeze me to the point of breaking. It was pretty intense. The good news again, is that it doesn’t need to be. Well, not if you take notice and listen to what I’m saying.
The soul whispers. It doesn’t shout.
If you’re not paying attention you’ll likely miss what it has to say. Let me tell you, that’s not a good idea. Because ultimately life wants us to evolve and grow - to expand. If you’re not playing along, you will be knocked for six and caught out when the lesson comes. And it will come. Perhaps you’re OK living an OK life. You’re getting by, having enough of most things. Having some free time, and plodding along. Nothing wrong with that!
But perhaps you’re not. If you’re reading this far, I suggest you might be sick and tired of the lack of meaning and purpose in your life.
Your soul is like a nagging child in the backseat of the car on a road trip, continually asking ‘are we nearly there’ as a reminder that you’re still not living life ON YOUR TERMS. You may know what those terms are, you might not. That’s how deep the conditioning goes, you don’t often know what is your belief or someone else until you begin pulling at the threads of the complex knit of your identity. It’s a challenging place to be. Yet I can promise you that deep down you already have the answers, and the capacity to see the wood for the trees. It does however take a commitment to show up for the task. Nobody else can do it but you.
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As I sit and reflect what 2020 has been about, one of the key themes for me has been intensity. Earlier today I polished off nearly a whole box of shitty chocolates and as I look down at my dinner, unusually, it's loaded with flavours and textures I don't often partake in. All the salty, crunchy indulgent things I haven't had in quite a while - are all having a party on my plate and my palate. Quite the opposite to the detoxifying ayurvedic diet I've been following for the best part of 6 months.
Rather than judge myself as I might have done in the past, I'm curious. What is this telling me? What do I get to learn?
A time for reflection
As I reflect something that comes up strongly is an addiction to intensity, from the strong flavours, to the complete 180 on my diet protocol, I've always been someone that alternates between extremes. I pushed the boundaries and sometimes broke them, occasionally with detrimental consequences. Seeking intensity as some kind of reward or feedback for a job well done, or more accurately as rebellion against some effort to control me. A binge and abstain cycle that is certainly not sustainable or healthy. Well at least I FEEL ALIVE. Can you relate?
I feel this reflects what's happening in society too. Oh...and add the layer where intensity covers our sensitivity and distracts us from our pain and the truth. Novocaine for the unhappy, unfulfilled potential of the soul....An interesting and dysfunctional cocktail indeed.
Nonetheless this cycle has taught me plenty, the most important aspect being how to find my centre. Often seeking the extremes are a necessary part of that pendulation process, but I recognise more and more that they do not need to be. Instead they reveal underlying unconscious patterns that are playing out, which have likely been in existence since childhood. It would make sense therefore that chaos and intensity feel incredibly familiar to me, taken one step further I'd say they actually feel normal - like I'm at home.
It's perhaps ironic and at the same time completely understandable therefore that I've had one of the best years in my business so far - in 2020 - a.k.a. the year of the apocalypse. It turns out that I've trained my entire lifetime for this moment - to be the calm in the chaos. You could call it my gift.
Living in the soulful flow
But I think I'm finally done with the intensity and the extreme highs and lows my ego craves to feel somehow satisfied. Instead I'm choosing the middle path, where it gets to be flowing and aligned, and led totally by my soul and trust in the divine. I'm ready to surrender completely to the fires of transformation and be reborn once again, in every moment, to the truth of who I am and how I'm here to serve.
Well... after I finish off the rest of this packet of crisps anyhow.
In and of itself that sounds quite intense, and I guess it is, in it's own way. Dying over again to claim my sovereignty and freedom is an intensity I can vibe with. If it means offering up my precious ego to live a life that's totally authentic and true to my soul I'm prepared and willing to make the sacrifice every time.
I'm just deciding that the answer doesn't need to be found on the other side of a mountain of cheese and ready salted crisps! It was however the necessary vehicle for me to write this. Everything is connected and revealing itself perfectly. There are no mistakes in life, simply opportunities to learn.
We all get the chance to choose again, over and over, in every moment. It's never too early, and it's never too late to be your own hero. 'Ready' isn't a verb - it's a decision you make when your dreams become bigger than your excuses.
Cheers (cheese lol) to the roller coaster ride of 2020. May your 2021 be expansive and joyful in ways you cannot possibly dream to imagine.
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.