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FAKE. PHONEY. F*CKERY. The world we live in is upside down. Don’t show emotion. Don’t say what you think. Keep yourself to yourself. Physically distance yourself to protect yourself (the irony). Connect via internet platforms which encourage and incentivise more fakery and B.S. Is this a world you want to live in? I have to say for me that’s a no! Whilst technology has its benefits, we’ve taken it too far. People have stopped saying what they think for fear of being ‘censored’ or outcast. Random strangers attacking others just for the sake of it, because they believe they are ‘entitled’ to. The internet has turned into a toxic emotional dumping ground - or perhaps it was from the start? Humans - we need to grow up. Your emotional trauma should not be dropped on every single person you come into contact with - but that’s exactly what is happening on a day to day basis. I’m sick of the righteous anger that is projected all over the place. How about instead of spewing all your own unresolved drama onto others you sit your ass down and take a look within - and get real with what’s truly going on. The truth is..... You’re scared. You’re hurt. You’re upset. You’re feeling helpless. You’re feeling [insert your emotional flavour here] All of this lies underneath the anger and attack. The food addictions, alcohol, drugs, etc is all a way of coping with the sea of emotion that lies beneath the surface, waiting to erupt at any moment. The layers go like this... Anger Addictions Fear / Terror Grief None of the things you want to feel - except the first one because it makes you feel powerful. Let’s be honest, nobody really wants to feel anything at the bottom of the list. But the reality is this is what will set us free and change the negative patterns of a lifetime, and even a collective! Becoming more emotionally sensitive, not less, is actually the answer. It is the pathway to true freedom and fulfilment. Everything else is a hollow façade, and at some point it will either come crashing down around you with major collateral damage, or you’ll dwindle into a shell of your potential and shut life out completely. I’ve done both so I’m not here to judge! I’m here to say there is another way. I’m done with the fakery. I’m fed up of the hiding and pretending everything is fine. Look around. Look within. It’s not. The only way we make positive changes in this world, is by making positive changes within ourselves. Nobody else can do that for you. It seems we’re always looking for a solution to a problem, which doesn’t directly address the cause of the problem. Until we do so, we are just cutting the top off of a weed and wondering why it keeps growing back. The only way to resolve it is to get to the root cause and remove that. Anything else is band aids for bullet wounds. It might work temporarily but you’ll be bleeding again before too long. There’s a reason you’re avoiding the pain of the past. It was so intense you didn’t want to face it. The chances are you didn’t have the support to do so. However, this is not an excuse to continue to bleed on the people who didn’t cut you. The only way out is through. I’m sharing this to save you time, energy, effort and disappointment. Believe me I’ve spent years attempting to avoid doing my emotional work (including recent years as a breathwork facilitator - the irony!!) but honestly, it is the ONLY thing that actually heals long term. Whether you believe me or not, it doesn’t matter. Whether you like this message or not, I don’t care. I’m here to share the truth so that more people can be free of their past and free from the pain and create a life they deserve, on their terms. If that’s you, I’d love to support you. Everything you want is on the other side of your unresolved emotions (including fear). Remember, Breathe the change you wish to see in the world. Philippa xo
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 What does it mean and why does it matter?
I came across a LinkedIn post today about the recent horrific events pertaining to a young woman who recently lost her life at the hands of an alleged male murderer. This is the type of news that nobody wishes into existence. However the tone of the post and subsequent comments left me even more concerned and alarmed. It was a full blown rant at men and signed off with “Men, do better”. The comments section was then a battle ground, where some seemingly well intentioned men were asking questions and being told to ‘educate themselves’. I’m not here men or women bashing. This is the whole point. We must all ‘do better’. Why do we live in a violent society? Because as a human race we have experienced horrendous amounts of violence and denigration - to both sexes. Think war, famine, conflict, the list goes on. Yes men are physically larger and stronger, and hence capable of harm to others. However if you give anybody a weapon they care capable of inflicting damage. Just because you don’t have a knife in your hand on social media, doesn’t mean you’re not inflicting the same level of damage. We must all ‘do better’. Hence are you processing or projecting your unhealed trauma? Society is made up of individuals, whom each have the responsibility to do their share of the work. That includes doing their own trauma work. You don’t have any I hear you say? If you’re a human living in a body then I hate to break the news to you, but that is utter BS. The entire human race is traumatised, it’s just that we are like a fish that doesn’t know what water is, because it’s something we are born into. We don’t know any different. If we are not aware of our trauma (which isn’t the type that might historically be associated with ‘big T’ trauma) then the chances are we are projecting it out onto the world. When we do this - we create more pain and suffering - for ourselves and those on the receiving end. Rather than take the opportunity to resolve the pattern and heal it, we perpetuate it and pass it down the generational line. Yes - think your children, family and anyone else you deal with day to day. Trauma in essence is an unresolved experience. It is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual’s ability to cope, which may result in feelings of helplessness, and reduce our ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences. Trauma and beliefs also go hand in hand. If you’ve had a negative experience with {insert x) then you will likely develop a belief about that situation / person and carry it around with you for the rest of your life - for better or worse. When we carry it, we have a tendency to spill it out everywhere we go. The saying goes that ‘If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on the people who didn’t cut you’. This is why our focus must be directed at what we can do within ourselves, rather than creating more pain and division by our unconscious actions. Why is healing your trauma so important? Simply this. So you can stop living as a victim and take control of your life. So you may become empowered, and ultimately so you can thrive! Your mind is the most powerful tool for creation you have - full stop. What you perceive becomes your reality. So if you see threat and violence, all around you then guess is what you are going to create? I’m not writing this to shame anybody. Unfortunate things happen. This is, I believe ultimately because we have become disconnected from love - which is the source of our humanity. Our societies and cultures and dysfunctional. They have been this way for millennia. Blaming someone else is not going to bring about change. Only you can do that, from the inside out. The only way out is through. Through the feelings, through the pain, through the suffering. When we make the courageous choice to alchemise our suffering and turn it into gold, we become the victors in our life and we inspire others around us to choose what is right - and be the embodiment of love. Take back your power. Go within. This is where we heal ourselves and the planet. Projecting your pain and drama outwards is damaging, divisive and further perpetuates the cycle of violence. Ultimately, blaming someone else won’t give you the freedom you desire. Only you can do that. If you want to create real change? Utilise the momentum that your outrage has triggered. It is a powerful invitation to look deeper within. Heal your trauma and see your (& our) world radically transform before your eyes. Remember, Breathe the change you wish to see in the world. Philippa If you would like some support please reach out.  The continual drive and obsession for growth, expansion and succeeding at all costs is literally killing women. The need to be permanently switched on and going at full speed is exhausting and unnecessary. It is draining our life force away. Women are not designed this way, and our societies dominant masculine energy is the problem.
No woman would purposefully design a modern world like this, yet we have been conditioned by it. We think it's the norm, and because it doesn't work for us - we believe that somehow WE are the ones who are flawed. It couldn't be further from the truth. The difference is this. Men have seasons throughout their life. Women have seasons every.single.month. Until relatively recently this was an alien concept to me. For most or my life I have been disconnected from my month cycle. Only now I am beginning to discover the changes that I experience within myself over the course of a month. If this is a new concept to you, you're not alone. There's a whole new world waiting to be discovered when you pay attention. Cycles and rhythms play out internally - yet they are subtle. In order to know them you must pay attention. Women for the most part have become numb to the life that is happening within their bodies. There is no space for feeling and emotions in the hyper masculine culture. It doesn't exist. Which means, we don't exist. Let that sink in. If a woman cannot be all of whom she is, do we really have a culture? No, we have a prison. And one I might add, of our own doing. This isn't about blame, it's about awareness. So get this. Every month, the women in your life go through four seasons. Spring. Summer. Autumn. Winter. Every single month on repeat. The energy rises, the green shoots spark. The summer heat and beauty comes. The autumn leaves turn and then the cold wind sends us huddling under blankets for warmth and rest. Every single month. Over and over. A constant change to our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual landscape. If you wonder why women are so complex, here's why. If you're a woman and you're wondering why for the life of you, you can't figure your shit out, here's why. There's nothing wrong with you. Chances are you're just disconnected from what is. Your true nature. We need to slow down. We need to stop. Smell the roses. Plait our hair. Dance and sing. Those are the things that make our spirit soar. You know when you're in the company of a woman who is deeply connected to herself. Her presence is enchanting. This is what we deeply need to do our work. Space to be women. We are not men. We do NOT thrive in a hyper masculine environment. Likewise if you're a man and you're stuck in your hyper masculine with no connection to your feminine essence, you are guaranteed to burn out. Sooner or later life will crack you open and demand that you stop. I'd recommend making that decision before it's forced upon you. Once you open up to your emotions, not only will you find true connection and fulfilment, you'll also understand the female of the species a whole lot better. We don't want to be men. That's your job. Please help us to create the space for us to do ours (and yes that might include crying, that's part of the role ;)). Thanks in advance. Remember, Breathe the change you wish to see in the world. Philippa xo Reach out if you'd like to know more about my 1:1 offerings. |
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