Don’t panic, I’m not about to share something novel and groundbreaking with you. I’m not here to bust your paradigm… or am I? ;) I'm just going to remind you of something you ALREADY KNOW…. but don’t want to admit to yourself or anyone else for that matter.
YOU are responsible for where you’re currently at. Your life, your health, your happiness, your job etc. All of it. Complain all you like, if you like, but its not going to change the laws of the universe. They’re pretty set in stone (or rather energetic and mathematical codes way to complex for my little mind to comprehend….)
What I do know is this
If you want something different in your life - you WILL need to change something. No wishing, hoping, pining for change and doing the complete opposite action. Clear, determined, un-categoric choice for something different - and following it up with action, is what’s required. Putting your money where your mouth is, so to speak.
I realise it might feel far fetched and beyond your grasp. It did for me too, for far too long…. before I realised I was done with my self-sabotage and no matter what - was committed to getting out of my own way and sidestepping my own bullsh*t excuses.
External accountability is great, but if you’re not able to back that up with internal discipline then it’s going to be a fight to the death with your ego - which above else - wants you to stay the same.
Because change - seen through the eyes of your ego - means DEATH. Slow, painful, uncertain outcome type of death - is what it fears beyond anything. This is what is often referred to as ‘resistance’. You know, the typical excuses that arise when you commit to something, but you allow yourself to get sidetracked / sabotaged / distracted etc.
Stepping onto your path
At one point the destination seems pinpoint clear until you take a step or two forward and start to smack into the boulders placed in your way. Your internal mechanisms want to stay the same - but I'm guessing YOU don’t.
You want something different. Perhaps its been that way for a long time. Perhaps it’s a new and novel realisation. Either way, if you want a different outcome you’re going to HAVE to make a change somewhere. Einstein once said - repetition of the same thing expecting a different outcome is the definition of insanity - or something to that effect. And he’s right.
No change = no change.
End of story. Full stop.
There IS light at the end of the tunnel however.
Many of the reasons you’ve not yet succeeded at changing something is highly likely to relate to your belief systems and current identity. What I mean by that is the the current version of you that resides in your head. The picture you hold of yourself in your minds eye. Again it’s most likely that the imaginary version you hold has been largely shaped by your life experience and early childhood environment and is wildly out of touch with the REAL you.
So if you grew up in a household where money was scarce, guess what type of beliefs your subconscious is encoded with?? Yep, scarcity. Lack. Concern about money and how you’re going to pay the bills and put food on the table.
When you decide on an identity (whether consciously or not) your outer reality will reflect it back to you. So within, as without.
Start with you
If you want to change, it’s most effective to start with the problem - YOU. Your inner landscape, beliefs, emotional baggage and crappy view of yourself. It’s possible to plaster over the cracks, but only for so long. Rest assured they WILL re-appear a few years down the line, at which time it will be trickier and more costly to repair.
Some part of you already knows this. Perhaps you can’t put it into words but you can feel it in your bones. The game is up. On the other hand if you’re reading this and you’re exactly where you wish to be in life, congratulations! Keep going!
And if not…don’t go changing…. UNLESS you want to be happier / healthier / wealthier / [insert hearts DESIRE here].
Breathe the change you wish to see in the world.